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The Pitfalls of Low Self Esteem

You are not alone

At some point, everyone has a time in their life when they simply do not feel like they are valued as much as they would like to be. Maybe you simply don’t feel like you’re attractive enough or even worse, maybe you never really felt the love that you would like to feel from the people that you love the most, such as family and friends. Even if you have not experienced these scenarios, there have undoubtedly been times that you felt that you were not treated fairly about a specific situation. The question is, how do you deal with these things when they happen to you? Unfortunately, these types of situations can have a very negative impact on your self-esteem and that in turn can have a negative impact on practically everything that you do in life. As if that were not enough, it makes it very difficult to have open and honest relationships with other people.

Difficulty opening up to others

You might have found that you’ve been in several of these types of situations and you now find it very difficult  to share your feelings with other people. It might have even gotten to the point that you intentionally stay away from other people, labeling yourself as someone who simply does better on your own than with other people. The truth is, everyone needs companionship and if you are doing this, you’re probably not living your life to the fullest extent possible.

When you fail to be original and voice your opinions or share your ideas with others, you’re not doing yourself or anyone else any favors. While it is true that you’re probably doing this because you do not want to be rejected, you are also taking away any chances that you might be able to show your character and form a close bond with anyone. A lack of self-esteem causes you to fail to be the person that you’re meant to be. In fact, the only thing that isolating yourself does is guarantee that you almost certainly will be overlooked by everyone and you will not have the opportunity to be an active part of anyone else’s life. This means that no one else has a chance to embrace you. You’re essentially removing yourself from living life. While it may hurt to experience the pain of rejection, imagine living your life in a constant state of pain and self-loathing. There is no happiness in that.


If you have low self-esteem, there is probably a good reason for it. Chances are, you did not receive the love that you deserved when you were young or there was someone that meant a great deal to you that hurt you deeply. Having problems in childhood, being rejected repeatedly or simply being told that you’re not “good enough” can result in a lot of negative feelings about yourself. Unfortunately, low self-esteem is a fire that tends to feed off itself, getting worse as time goes on. If you want things to improve, you must intervene.

Start feeling better about yourself

Think about it this way. If you were suffering from a severe case of the flu, you would not simply continue to let the disease progress and continue to get worse and worse without seeing a doctor about it. The same is true if you do not have any self-esteem. There are things that you can do. You can talk to a trusted individual or get professional counseling. Sometimes, something as simple as trying a new hobby or reaching out to someone is all that it takes to start feeling better about yourself and peeling back the layers of hurt. The point is, low self-esteem will control you and everything in your life if you allow it to do that. If you want to achieve your dreams and have close personal relationships, you have to take charge of your life! Do whatever is necessary so that you can show your unique personality to the world. It is the only way that you can live the productive life you are meant to live.

Practical Points:

If you suffer from having low self esteem here are a few tips to help you regain control of your life.

  •  Recognize that you are unique and except it as your normal.
  •  Find three great attributes about yourself and nurture them.
  •  Compliment others.
  •  Motivate yourself with daily positive self talk; I am intelligent, I am strong, I am beautiful, I  have purpose.
  • Try opening up to others. For example, spark up a conversation with neighbors or classmates.
  •  Surround yourself with people who except and embrace you for who you are.


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